Rewrite-Your-Message Mode
You know what you feel, but every version you type either sounds too harsh, too soft, or just doesn't portray what you're trying to say. Rewrite-Your-Message Mode helps you say what you mean in a calmer, clearer way.
This tool is part of SpeakOpen.ly Premium. It takes the message you want to send and offers a version that’s more likely to be heard instead of defended against.
What Rewrite-Your-Message Mode does
Instead of rewriting your partner’s words, this mode rewrites yours. You paste in the message you wish you could send, and it helps you express the same truth with less heat and more emotional safety.
- Clarifies what you’re actually trying to say so you don’t send something you’ll regret.
- Softens sharp edges without watering down your feelings or needs.
- Reduces blame-heavy language and focuses more on impact, not accusation.
- Helps your message land in a way your partner can actually hear and respond to.
You still decide what you send. Rewrite-Your-Message Mode just gives you safer, clearer options so you’re not drafting alone in a spiral.
“You never consider how I feel. It’s always about you.”
“Lately I’ve been feeling a bit on the sidelines. When decisions are made without checking in with me, it leaves me feeling unimportant. I really want us to feel like a team.”
The feeling is the same — hurt and unseen — but the wording invites connection instead of defensiveness.
When to use Rewrite-Your-Message Mode
Use this mode when you’re hovering over “send” and a part of you knows: “If I send this exactly how it is, this is probably going to blow up.”
Especially useful when…
- You’re angry, hurt, or flooded and want to avoid texting in that state.
- You tend to either shut down or explode, and want a middle ground.
- You want to be honest without sounding like you’re attacking.
- You care about the relationship but struggle to find the right words.
What it doesn’t do
- It doesn’t tell you to ignore your feelings.
- It doesn’t make everything “nice” at the cost of your truth.
- It doesn’t promise the other person will respond perfectly.
It supports you in saying what you mean in a way that’s more likely to move the conversation forward instead of sideways.