Frequently Asked Questions

SpeakOpen.ly is an emotional communication tool that helps you turn how you feel into a clear, calm, safe message you can actually send. Instead of spiraling, shutting down, or exploding, you get structured tools that help you understand what you feel, what happened, and how to express yourself without making things worse.

It’s for anyone who:

• struggles to say how they feel without causing conflict
• gets overwhelmed during emotional conversations
• needs help wording messages when activated
• wants calmer, clearer communication in relationships

You don’t need to be in a relationship to use it — many people use it for family, friends, co-workers, or even just for regulating themselves.

No. SpeakOpen.ly is not therapy and does not replace therapy. It’s a communication and emotional clarity tool, designed to help you put your feelings into words more safely. If you are in crisis or need mental health support, please reach out to real-world help or use the crisis resources on our Support page.

No. SpeakOpen.ly does not store any of your emotional inputs or messages. Everything you type is processed in real-time and then immediately forgotten. Nothing is saved to a database, nothing is analyzed later, and nothing is tied to your identity.

Absolutely not. SpeakOpen.ly is a private, personal tool. No one you’re writing about has access to your messages, your drafts, your feelings, or your work inside the platform.

Yes — that’s what it’s built for. Tools like Safe Response Mode and Emotional Reset are specifically designed to help you calm your nervous system and communicate without reacting impulsively. That said, nothing on this platform should replace real-world safety or crisis support if you're in danger.

Partner Mode helps you interpret the emotional meaning behind a message someone sent you. It does not “guess” motives — it highlights possible emotional themes beneath the wording, so you can respond with more clarity instead of panic or assumptions.

Safe Response Mode takes a harsh or overwhelming message and rewrites it into a calmer, less attacking version, so you can see the emotional need or hurt behind it without excusing manipulation or abuse.

Rewrite-Your-Message helps you turn the message you're about to send into something calmer and clearer, without losing your boundaries or watering down what you need to say.

Emotional Reset guides you through a quick grounding process so you can respond from clarity instead of activation. It helps you regulate before you communicate.

Advice Mode gives you several safe, option-based ways to handle the situation you’re in, gentle cautions so you don’t self-sabotage, grounding questions, and a small next step — without telling you what you “should” do.

Premium gives you full access to:

• Partner Mode (full version)
• Safe Response Mode (full version)
• Rewrite-Your-Message Mode (full version)
• Emotional Reset (extended)
• Advice Mode (full)

Plus future tools and updates.

Yes. You can cancel at any time from your account dashboard. There are no contracts or minimum terms.

If you often get overwhelmed, struggle to put your feelings into words, or freeze during emotional moments, Premium gives you a 24/7 emotional clarity assistant that prevents miscommunication and unnecessary conflict.